Do Women Ever "Ask For It?"
No, no they do not.
In case you're wondering, this is in regards to Donna Karan’s response to Harvey Weinstein’s recent sexual assault charges.
She repeatedly said “women have to think about what they’re asking.”
I’d like to take this time to make one thing explicitly clear.
WOMEN NEVER EVER EVER ASK FOR SEXUAL ASSAULT.
I do not care how scantily clad she is.
I do not care if she gave what you perceived to be “a look.”
I do not care if she had it written on her face in a black sharpie.
I do not care if you were just trying to keep “having fun.”
I do not care if you've messed around before so it's "nothing new."
So Donna, let's have a little chat about this. With the exception of consensual adults engaging in BDSM and fantasy-play, no woman or girl ever asks for sexual assault or rape (for the record, BDSM is not even in the same category). I understand you want to speak up on behalf of your "wonderful" friend but newsflash dear, your "wonderful" friend sexually assaulted multiple women spanning decades, making them fear for their careers if they did not comply and leaving them scarred. Maybe you need to have a chat with your friend about respecting women.
She implies throughout the entirety of her statement that women are “asking for it” based solely on what they wear. I’d like to know more about how she would qualify "asking for it" clothing since women can get sexually assaulted for wearing anything from a shapeless hoodie and sweatpants to a fitted bandeau dress that barely covers the goods. But Donna, let’s not insinuate, let’s not beat around the bush. Don’t keep vaguely referring to manner of dress by saying things like, “...how do we display ourselves? How do we present ourselves as women? What are we asking? Are we asking for it by presenting all the sensuality and all the sexuality?”
We are presenting ourselves as women. Nothing more, nothing less.
In what way is a hoodie that’s 2 sizes too big being “sensual” in the commonly understood sense of the word?? Not every woman assaulted is wearing revealing or form-fitting clothing, Donna. You’re basically saying, “Stop dressing like a hoe,” and I want to know exactly what a “hoe” or a woman considered to be “asking for it” by your standards wears?
Also, is it all based solely off of what a woman is wearing? Donna, that’s very narrow-minded. Sometimes men are just in the mood for “a bit of the old ultra-violence.” Occasionally they’re too drunk and shouldn’t be around anyone, let alone women. Sometimes it can happen because a woman didn’t smile. That’s right, a smile didn’t appear on her face because smiling is not mandatory for survival and as a result, a man attacks her in some dated attempt to “teach her a lesson.” It could also be due to how the man was raised or come down to the simple fact he just doesn't respect women enough to care about whether they are consenting or not (maybe he doesn't have a daughter or a mother to relate to and humanize the female gender and as a result finds it hard).
And I mean really Donna, you think that many women happened to be “asking for it” that consecutively? Do you consider every single female who has ever been sexually assaulted to be "asking for it?" Even the 5-year old girl who's uncle took playtime in an abhorrent direction?
AND, what ever happened to teaching men restraint? Just because she’s cute doesn’t mean you have to try and touch her boob or ask for a fake massage as your way to get “in”. Harvey needs to be taught some manners and respect with regard to women. I don’t care what era you were brought up in. Respect should always be earned, never just given.
In closing, let’s vow never to blame rape and sexual assault on the clothing the victim was wearing but rather the physical actions of the perpetrator.
Click here for the link to the article above referenced.
In case you're wondering, this is in regards to Donna Karan’s response to Harvey Weinstein’s recent sexual assault charges.
She repeatedly said “women have to think about what they’re asking.”
I’d like to take this time to make one thing explicitly clear.
WOMEN NEVER EVER EVER ASK FOR SEXUAL ASSAULT.
I do not care how scantily clad she is.
I do not care if she gave what you perceived to be “a look.”
I do not care if she had it written on her face in a black sharpie.
I do not care if you were just trying to keep “having fun.”
I do not care if you've messed around before so it's "nothing new."
So Donna, let's have a little chat about this. With the exception of consensual adults engaging in BDSM and fantasy-play, no woman or girl ever asks for sexual assault or rape (for the record, BDSM is not even in the same category). I understand you want to speak up on behalf of your "wonderful" friend but newsflash dear, your "wonderful" friend sexually assaulted multiple women spanning decades, making them fear for their careers if they did not comply and leaving them scarred. Maybe you need to have a chat with your friend about respecting women.
She implies throughout the entirety of her statement that women are “asking for it” based solely on what they wear. I’d like to know more about how she would qualify "asking for it" clothing since women can get sexually assaulted for wearing anything from a shapeless hoodie and sweatpants to a fitted bandeau dress that barely covers the goods. But Donna, let’s not insinuate, let’s not beat around the bush. Don’t keep vaguely referring to manner of dress by saying things like, “...how do we display ourselves? How do we present ourselves as women? What are we asking? Are we asking for it by presenting all the sensuality and all the sexuality?”
We are presenting ourselves as women. Nothing more, nothing less.
In what way is a hoodie that’s 2 sizes too big being “sensual” in the commonly understood sense of the word?? Not every woman assaulted is wearing revealing or form-fitting clothing, Donna. You’re basically saying, “Stop dressing like a hoe,” and I want to know exactly what a “hoe” or a woman considered to be “asking for it” by your standards wears?
Also, is it all based solely off of what a woman is wearing? Donna, that’s very narrow-minded. Sometimes men are just in the mood for “a bit of the old ultra-violence.” Occasionally they’re too drunk and shouldn’t be around anyone, let alone women. Sometimes it can happen because a woman didn’t smile. That’s right, a smile didn’t appear on her face because smiling is not mandatory for survival and as a result, a man attacks her in some dated attempt to “teach her a lesson.” It could also be due to how the man was raised or come down to the simple fact he just doesn't respect women enough to care about whether they are consenting or not (maybe he doesn't have a daughter or a mother to relate to and humanize the female gender and as a result finds it hard).
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| Courtesy of Rose McGowan via Instagram, a force of nature within herself |
And I mean really Donna, you think that many women happened to be “asking for it” that consecutively? Do you consider every single female who has ever been sexually assaulted to be "asking for it?" Even the 5-year old girl who's uncle took playtime in an abhorrent direction?
AND, what ever happened to teaching men restraint? Just because she’s cute doesn’t mean you have to try and touch her boob or ask for a fake massage as your way to get “in”. Harvey needs to be taught some manners and respect with regard to women. I don’t care what era you were brought up in. Respect should always be earned, never just given.
In closing, let’s vow never to blame rape and sexual assault on the clothing the victim was wearing but rather the physical actions of the perpetrator.
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| Courtesy of Instagram |
Click here for the link to the article above referenced.
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